Thursday, 15 May 2014

So Here's the Thing..

This year in my English class we read a group of short stories, one of them was called The Flash, by Italo Calvino, (you can read it here). "The Flash" is about that moment of realisation you have every once in awhile where you see the world through a completely different perspective, it's like you've looked up and suddenly you see everything clearly, no murky societal rules to blur your vision, and for a brief moment, you get it. But that moment is brief, and then it's gone, and every once in awhile you wish it came back... you spend your life waiting to see it that clearly again.

Well here's the REAL thing. Every once in awhile, we have "the flash" moment and it doesn't go away, however we don't call it that, we call it an existential crisis.

The thing about existential crises is that we all have them, if you don't ever have on in your life span, I question both your intelligence and your sanity. However, even though we all have them, I have come to the realisation that we don't actually talk about them, which makes more than no sense seeing as we're all in the same boat and probably could benefit a lot from knowing that we're not alone in our terrifying experience of an existential crisis.

The first one I ever had was in 7th grade, after some investigation, I realise that this is later than most peoples's first one, so I actually knew a lot of people at the time who knew exactly what I was going through, but of course instead of talking about it with them I lived in a constant state of anxiety and unhappiness until I found my way out through music.

Now, five years later, I have found myself yet again faced with the challenge of seeing the entire world through that flash perspective, wishing it would go away. The first time it happened, I didn't really realise what I was thinking or what I was seeing, now I'm all too aware.

The problem with the flash perspective is that it's meant to be only a flash, you're not meant to sit there and stew over what it means, and why it is the way it is, because let me tell you, it drives a person crazy. The flash is supposed to come and go to remind you that, for lack of a more relevant term, YOLO. That you've got to prioritize and know yourself well enough to know what you value and want from your life. BUT! When the darn, stinking, flash doesn't go away, it transforms from a bright flash of understanding and enlightenment, to a gray cloud of depression. When you can't stop yourself from seeing that world from the outside perspective, from completely outside the box, you're left there constantly asking yourself how you're supposed to live your life now, instead of actually living it. It's just plain awful.

Last but not least, let me just vent on this lasting flash experience... As I said before, everyone has existential crises. Very, very real ones.. Life changing ones that make you question your existence and the point of life and what happens after death and they are hands down, the most unsettling, and terrifying things to think and experience. So why is it that when I say that I'm going through an existential crisis, people laugh and go, "oh my gosh I had one of those while studying for math last night... the worst!" Excuse me, what? You had time to question all of life and existence and fall apart and crumble to absolute bits and then pick yourself back up and comment that on my instagram feed with a smiley face??? Well call me impressed.

Okay, seriously though, is it because they assume that that's what I mean by existential crisis, a flash moment of me going "what is life?" instead of the constant state of depression and anxiety I've fallen into as a result of my constant questioning of everything around me? Because I really am not trying to give that impression. And it is SO much harder to try and not feel alienated when everyone else pretends that existential crises are no big thing, or that oblivion doesn't terrify them, WHO ARE YOU? HOW IS THAT EVEN POSSIBLE???? TELL ME YOUR SECRETS TO SUCH A CALM AND SECURE MIND SET.

I just don't understand.

Sigh.

Just trust me when I say, if you've experienced "The Flash" and are hopelessly waiting for that perspective to come back, move on, and enjoy your blissful ignorance. I envy you more than you know.

Friday, 4 April 2014

Travelling Musts: Packing

Hi guys! So I know it's been ages since I've updated... but in my defense I've been a busy girl! I just recently came back from a school trip to Greece, and since then I've been trying to catch up on all the things I missed, so bare with me! Since I missed so much due to my travelling, I thought I would make a blog set of my travelling musts. I'm only 17, but I have been to 4 continents and on three school trips, which is what I'm assuming most of my readers are travelling with! Without further ado, here are my absolute MUSTS for PACKING! *Please note these are packing tips for vacations, i.e. travelling with school or family!*

1. Not over packing is important, but not under packing is equally as important. If you're going away for a week or more, NO ONE is going to give you street cred for packing all your things in a back pack or carry-on bag (mini suitcase), you'll just end up ill-prepared. Don't do that. It doesn't make you cool, it makes you stupid. Sorry.

2. When it comes to clothes, pack things that you will not only look good in but feel comfortable in! Travelling is one of the only times that I always feel like I've got a good outfit planned every single day, because I've spent weeks thinking over what would be my best options. You need to think what is not only cutest, but most practical, what trousers can you wear with every single one of your shirts? Would you be comfortable wearing walking around a lot in them or sitting in them for long hours? Yes? BRING THOSE ONES. Also! Mix and match it up in there, don't just bring three pairs of jeans and rotate through, it might be warmer so maybe you should bring a dress or a skirt, which you could still wear with leggings underneath if it's cold! Speaking of leggings: 

3.Leggings are the ultimate airplane bottoms for three reasons: 
1) You can move around and make weird poses to get comfortable and not flash anyone like you would in a skirt or dress. 
2) They are not in any way constricting like jeans which is a godsend on long rides. 
3) They're not too warm but not too cold, you can always find a way to get comfortable in them. 

4. I don't think I even need to say it because it's so ridiculously obvious but: only pack clothes that you can wear more than once. If you're feeling overpacked, weed things out by going through each day and making sure you only have enough clothes that if you wore them only once you wouldn't have anything to wear the last 1/3 of your trip, then take away the rest of the clothes that you want to wear the least, and mix and match what your bringing to make up the last 1/3 of the days. Easy as pie. 

5. ROLL YOUR CLOTHES! If you have a crazy momma like I do who is always trying to make you pack everything in the smallest possible suitcase, then roll your clothes to make sure you have enough room for everything else. Tip: if there's no wrinkles in the clothes while you roll them, there won't be any when you unpack them, sometimes I roll skirts and dresses for this reason alone (no creases).

6. Toiletries: Buy empty shampoo and conditioner bottles that way you can reuse them. My family keeps the little bottles you get from hotels, but because the shampoo and conditioner in them is pretty crappy I usually empty them and put things like body wash and creams in them instead. Make sure you bring a nail clipper and file, band-aids and safety. You never, ever know.

7. Dirty laundry: OK so here's the deal, after having gone on many trips with only one random bag as a dirty laundry (until I finally got a cloth reusable one) I have discovered some very helpful things:
- get a cloth, reusable bag with a drawstring; the plastic ones hold in moisture so if you have gross, sweaty things they get extra stinky, a cloth one lets them breath and also it's better for the environment! Wahey!
- only put clothes in there that are n o t underwear; this way if you decide they're not actually too dirty and really want to wear it again, at least it hasn't been sat in a bag with your dirty underwear. To fix this problem I started putting my underwear into a toiletry bag that has the clean ones on one side and the dirty on the other, it's waaaaay more convenient. 

8. Underwear: pack at least three extra sets of underwear and socks, these are things you never want to run out of. 

9. Carry-on: If you're travelling on a plane at all, make sure you put an extra set of clothes in your carry on, even if it's just socks and underwear and a tank top. Many times I've had people lose their luggage and be stuck with no other clothes for a day or more while they wait for their luggage to finally arrive. That being said, make sure you pack everything important in your carry-on, money, itinerary, camera, chargers (and converters), everything. 

And guys, please, please, please make a check list. Make sure everything you need is on that check list, double check everything you need is on that check list, ask someone else if everything you need is on your list, and then triple check that everything on that check list is packed. 

Most importantly though, remember that things go wrong and things get forgotten, it happens. It's taken me at least 5 times before I actually managed to travel and not forget anything. If/when it happens, don't let it ruin your trip, if it's something really big that you forgot, tell someone, they WILL help you, if there's one thing I learned on school trips, it's that everyone's in the same boat and is much more willing to help and be kind than they are at school. Don't let forgetting something ruin your trip, it's not worth it! (And you shouldn't forget anything because you triple checked your list, right?
Hope this helps! 
Lots of love, xx

Saturday, 8 February 2014

Beauty Tips for Winter Weather: Dry Hair & Split Ends

ALRIGHT! I've really got to get on with this post, I've been procrastinating forever, but I'm super busy right now, so it's going to be a quick one! Here are my tips on how to deal with dry hair and split ends. FUN FACT: I have loads of experience with both of these because a) I live in Canada. The northern part. b) I work in a pool, not AT a pool, IN one. Agh. 
Here it goees! For DRY HAIR try these tips!
  1. Don't wash your hair every night... or even every other night. If your hair gets as dry as mine, it will be able to go a couple nights without being washed. I wash my hair 3 nights a week, I KNOW it sounds gross but it works, I promise. I still shower every night, but I make sure to put my hair up before I get in, that's all. 
  2. DRY SHAMPOO IS YOUR BEST FRIEND!  Okay, so your hair gets greasy and gross if you don't wash it every night? NOT an excuse! Dry shampoo is super cheap and it's an absolute lifesaver, I picked mine up for $12 CAD from Chatters on Boxing Day, it's a spray in bottle that I put in every morning that I haven't showered the night before and it makes my hair look normal AND smell flowery, which is perfect because let's be real, if you don't wash your hair, it starts to stink. So when you go to pick up your own dry shampoo try to find one with a scent, and a spray on one because I find it's a LOT easier to apply!
That's basically it for dry hair, as long as you do this your hair shouldn't be neaaaaarly as dry and you shouldn't need to do anything else!
For SPLIT ENDS it's a bit trickier... but I've found that these tips work:
  1. Apply a heat resister before applying any kind of heat, including blow drying! You can get these fairly cheap at the drugstore but like anything, the more expensive the better. CHI works super duper well for me! 
  2. If you're straightening, blow drying or curling your hair every day, you're doing it all wrong. GIRL GET YO ASS ON PINTEREST! There are TONS of DIYs on there that are HEAT FREE! I know that like 75% do NOT look how they do in the pictures, but log on and try some when you have some time off and you'll find a couple that you can do pretty well, these are lifesavers. (There's a super easy one for a heat free curl that I'll post about later!) If you insist upon having straightener or curled hair every day, do what I mentioned in the first section and don't shower every night, use dry shampoo so that you don't have to re-apply the heat every day.
  3. MOROCCAN OIL!!!!!!!!! This. Is. The. Shit. Okay, so I don't actually own any myself, but my sister has it and it works magic, I swear by it. It isn't a straight up hair treatment it's just a jar off stuff that you put in 15 minutes pre-shower, and then a bottle of stuff you put in post-shower. The stuff you put in post shower I always just put on my ends. It makes your hair mega soft AND smells nice, which is a plus. The brand name is literally just "moroccan argan oil", and this hair treatment has become a must nowadays so I'm sure you can find one at your local drugstore for fairly cheap!
  4. TRIM YOUR SPLIT ENDS! Okay, I know if you go to the hair dresser and ask them to trim your split ends, they cut like a whole inch off and you end up crying because all the hard work you did to grow it out has disappeared, BUT! All you have to do, is every time you see your split ends coming in, trim them right away. Don't wait for them to get worse, and cut them yourself! When you go in for your next cut, your hair dresser will even out your hair but WILL NOT have to cut inches off because of split ends! It's a no brainer. 
  5. SHOWER RIGHT. When you shampoo, only shampoo the roots, when you condition, only condition the ends. Fights split ends and greasy hair simultaneously. 
  6. BRUSH. YOUR. HAIR. Oh my goodness, this is my ultimate pet peeve. If you complain about having dry hair and split ends but you're too lazy to even brush your hair every day, then I cannot help you. Leave now. Not brushing your hair is the laziest thing, I know some days that bed head can look kinda cute (it's like a weird thing that we all think some mornings? No? That's just me? Awkward..) BUT WE ALL KNOW that in an hour's time it'll look like serious bed head, so just brush it, it's not worth the hour of sexy bed head. Brushing your hair brings all the oils from your scalp down to the ends of your hair, if you don't brush your hair, there is a 100% chance you have dry ends and greasy roots. Sorry not sorry. *PLEASE NOTE THAT CURLY HAIRED PEOPLE ARE TO DISREGARD THIS TIP, Y'ALL ARE A WHOLE OTHER STORY*
Okay so that's all I've got for now! I'll update again when I get home so I can post links and brand names and such! Thanks for reading lovies, hope this helps! Comment if you tried anything and if it helped! 
xx

Friday, 31 January 2014

Favourite Pictures of Right Now!


OK so my cousin and I are penpals, and we always send some of our favourite pictures of the moment with our letters. Unfortunately, my printer is currently out of coloured ink so I'm posting on my pictures on here so I can still send them to my cousin! They include girl crush pictures, funny pictures, cutesy pictures and artsy pictures.
In this first set we have (TOP left to right), Gemma Styles being gorgeous and girl crushy, Harry Styles still from the Midnight Memories video edited onto a 'Footloose' movie poster, artsy fashion photo that I really liked.


In the second set we have (TOP left to right), a cutesy cat picture that I found on tumblr. a hilarious photo set of stills of Niall Horan from the'Talk Dirty to Me' video featured on 1DDay edited onto stills from Lady Gaga's video, a funny still of Louis Tomlinson & gang from the Midnight Memories video, Emma Watson being beautiful, a pair to the first artsy fashion photo, and Jennifer Lawrence and Little Mix being gorgeous and girl crushy.

Friday, 24 January 2014

Beauty Tips for Winter Weather: Caught a Cold?

Caught a cold thanks to the winter season? I feel your pain. Oh do I ever. I'm currently trying to fight off my own killer cold. My world is filled with tissues, tea and the sniffles... but I will not let it get the best of me! Here's some of the clever tips I stick to when fighting off a cold: 

Sniffles: 
These are the worst. Constantly having a runny nose is the most annoying thing, and as if that wasn't enough, now I have to deal with unbearably dry skin on and around my nose thanks to all the tissues! My solution? NASAL IRRIGATION.... or if you're Liz, a Neti Pot! These are those weird things that use a mixture of salt & water to clean your nose. Read up on them here, I have a pre-made one that I bought from the drugstore, but you can also get a Neti pot and make your own! As for the dryness issue, as I mentioned in a previous blog post (here) Vitamin E oil is a lifesaver for dry skin, however, if you have oily skin and break out easily, beware when putting it on your face; it may clog pores and cause a break out. My skin is generally quite dry though so I use it loads when I'm sick. 

Stuffy head/Drowsiness: 
You know the groggy feeling you get when you're sick? You can't really hear properly and you're literally always tired? Here's the easiest solution: 
-Sudafed: it's a medicine that fights off sinus congestion, I'm not big on taking pills to get better but when I know I have something I need to get done that day, I take one of these, they work miracles. 
- Peppermint oil: My mom taught me this, you take a tiny bit of peppermint oil on your fingers and rub it over your lymph nodes on your neck (just under/behind your ears), the smell helps wake you up and makes you feel like 1000x better. 
- TEA: OBVIOUSLY???  The thing about tea is that you have to pick the right kind of tea. Herbal teas are great for colds but if you're trying to get rid of drowsiness they can drag you down more than wake you up. My favourite tea for when I have a cold is Cold 911 from DavidsTea. It's was hand made for fighting off colds and is filled with all sorts of healing magic. You can check it out here, what I love most about it is that it still has all the cold fighting elements, but still has a bit of a 'zing' in it so that even when I put my honey in it I don't get drowsy.
- Alcohol: Okay, okay, okay, I'm not saying go to the pub and have a couple pint but a little bit of alcohol goes a long way to make me feel better. I always have a glass of wine or a shot of something if I'm feeling particularly awfully sick with a cold, it really makes me feel a lot better.

Sore Throat: 
Lucky me! I don't have a sore throat right now :-) But if you do, my go-to solution is a concoction of hot water, lemon juice & honey. Add each to suit your own taste, I'm not sure why but this always works for me. It also helps to have Halls with you wherever you go. I don't recommend taking Halls after Halls after Halls, I think that just makes it worse, but if you're feeling like your throat is particularly sore for some reason it's good to have some, just in case.

An overall solution to these problems? Take it easy and have a nice bath. Add lavender bath salts and light a candle or two. I like to light some lavender essential oil too because I'm convinced essential oils smell 10000000x better than regular candles. But seriously, if you're sick, don't stress yourself out. Stress will just weaken your immune system and make it harder for you to get better, so take it easy and lay low for a couple days with a new book or NetFlix or something. Take'er'easy. 

Hope these tips help & you're all feeling better in no time! Let me know if you tried any & how you liked it! xx

Beauty Tips for Winter Weather: Dry Hands

Hi guys!! Sorry for not having updated in awhile, it's exam time for me so I've been doing piles of school work. The next part of my 'Beauty Tips for Winter Weather' is something people in most places of the world have to deal with - Dry Hands- eeeek! 

These are the worst! They can get so dry and cracked that it's painful to wash them, moisturize them, and even in some cases move them. (I've been there. It sucks.) So here's how we get rid of them!
If you can, try to avoid getting to the point where they're so cracked they're painful, it's way easier to fight the dryness than fix them! To do this all you need to do is make sure you don't wash your hands too often... not in a gross way but just don't wash them unless it's necessary! ALSO: no hand sanitizer! It dries out your hands mega, mega fast & it's not good for you, so unless it's an absolute must, avoid it!

Next, make sure you're moisturizing your hands often enough. I know it sounds super obvious but seriously, pay attention to when and how much your moisturizing. Often I find that I'm not doing it nearly enough, make sure you're using a good moisturizer and that you put it on after you wash your hands. 

*Another easy rule is to always put cream on before going out into the cold, this just helps protect your skin from getting dried out by the cold or wind. I also make sure I put lip balm on before I go out in the cold. *

OK so your hands have already gotten past the point of no return- putting any kind of soap or moisturizer on practically stings you to death. The solution: Vitamin E oil. My mom did this for me when I was little and my hands got so dry that they were all cut up on the back, all you do is put a layer of Vitamin E oil on the backs of your hands before you go to bed. Put a clean sock over top to make sure it doesn't get all over your sheets. This works WONDERS, try it. I dare you. You will never look back.

Wednesday, 15 January 2014

Beauty Tips For Winter Weather: Chapped Lips

Hi guys! As you may know, I am from Canada! And here in Canada, it likes to be exceptionally chilly and dry! So for the next little bit I will be sharing my secrets to managing some common beauty issues that arise in colder climates:

Chapped Lips - EXFOLIATE THEM! This is a tip I learned from none other than Miss Alexa Chung herself, in here book "It" (which you can read more about HERE). I know it sounds gross, but it's a chapped lips lifesaver. 
All you have to do is: 
-mix a equal parts Vaseline and brown sugar together and rub it on your lips and then wash it off with water
I like to make a lot of a scrub like this and then keep it in an old hotel shampoo bottle (which I would have obviously cleaned out), so that I don't need to keep making more every time I want to exfoliate. It's also a great way to reuse those old shampoo bottles!

Exfoliating your lips may seem really yucky, but the scrub actually helps get rid of the dry, dead skin layering you lips, which helps rejuvenate them and the Vaseline helps moisturize them. So as long as you don't over exfoliate, your chapped lips should be gone in no time! By 'don't over exfoliate them' I mean, only do this once or twice a week.  

Also remember that it's important to moisturize them, and not just with your typical lip chap or EOS or whatever it is you use...When it comes to lip chap, I always try to go natural, this is because one time I was watching Doctor Oz and he was talking about how your lips can actually become addicted to lip balm, (if you're curious about that or think I'm crazy, watch the video of him talking about it HERE .It's really interesting and I definitely recommend that you do, it's not very long and it's totally worth it!) He says that by putting on lip balm consistently, you're actually blocking the lips natural rejuvenating cycle which can make the top layers of your lips dry and brittle. The solution? Use a natural oil to moisturize your lips instead. He recommends (and I use) coconut oil. This is because not only does it moisturize your lips without blocking lips natural cycle of shedding old cells (gross, I know), but it also smells nice and tastes fine if you accidentally get some in your mouth as well. I put it on post-exfoliation and in the mornings after I was my face! Easy as pie.

I hope this beauty tip helps some of you out there struggling with your chapped lips, feel free to comment with any beauty issues you have from harsh winter weather, and I'll do my best to make a post on it! Cheers!